I almost missed the article today ‘Sharing The Pain’ until my second son brought it to show me when I was giving the hubby a foot rub, just before bedtime. So, both he and I read parts of the newspapers together. Things seem surreal, like I am reading about somebody else. I got the 2nd page while hubby was reading the intro. I even have to ask him, Is Chan, me? (as I didn’t read the intro.)
Looking back, I am amazed that I had actually managed to take all those challenges in my stride. It is indeed God given strength. I hope if there are any bereaved parents out there who can relate to Dr. Dicky Ng, Audrey and my situation, please do not hesitate to get in touch with us. Write to me and I will sign you or you can log in to Malaysianmomshare at Yahoo group.
Getting through the whole article is hard but yeah, I managed, with just a few tears. When you have other children depending on you, it is not easy to dwell in something too much. Life has to go on. But that doesn’t mean that I have forgotten Vincent. Just today, Vincent’s baby brother, Matthew who is now three years old, was thumbing through the only photo album we had of Vincent. He asked me why did Vincent eat oranges in bed? That brought a smile to me. I told him it is Chinese New Year and we only put the orange for photography.
Then, he flipped a few more pages and happily showed me that, “Vincent kor-kor is so happy. Look, he smiles.”
So, dear parents, remember that we never stop being the parent, we just learn to cope and live with the hope of meeting our child, someday, somewhere, sometime.