I was introduced to Elisabeth Kubler-Ross’s book by Prof. Lucy Lum who was my deceased son’s final medical caregiver. She lent me a book which she bought from Amazon as there aren’t that many books available locally on coping with grief.
In fact, I have several books now, which was posted to me by parents from USA. We exchange these books amongst our grief support group members. If you live in Malaysia and wish to borrow from me, I can gladly mailed them to you, FOC. However, some of these books are based on the Christian faith but it is not totally meant to minister.
One of the most authorative writer on death and coping with an impending death is Dr. Elisabeth Ross who worked with dying children and adults. She has also written several other books on coping with grief.
For those who lost their loved ones, you may find the website by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler comforting. They have answers to most of the questions often asked by bereaved families. Some examples :
How Long will Grief Last? Do I Ever Get over the Loss of a Loved-One?
Grief is the healing process that helps us deal with the loss of a loved-one. Grief does not have a clear beginning or clear end to it. Rather, it is a reflection of feelings surrounding the loss. Grief will ebb and flow throughout our life after a loss. We don’t get over the loss of someone, but we learn to live with that loss. We also will eventually remember and honor our loved one without feeling pain. We will grieve as long as we need to.
I Have a Friend in Grief: How Can I Help?
One of the mistakes we make is asking people in deep grief how we can help them. They are often too lost in their own sorrow to identify needs. It’s OK to ask; but just know you can step in and help. For instance, if it’s after the funeral at a reception and the trash needs to be taken out – don’t ask, just help. In the old days we would gather around the loved one and just do things for them. Bring over some food so that they don’t have cook but can still eat well. You probably know their life - offer to pick up the kids, help them with their yard, offer to take them on errands. See the ten ways I can help you (link)