When you know someone whose child has died do you…
- miss the funeral because you didn’t know their child?
- say something comforting like,”thank God you have other kids?”
- first want to know how the child died?
- avoid that person so you won’t have to say anything at all?
- never mention their child because you know it will bring tears?
- think there is a time when the parents should get over it?
Sad as it may sound, these are the things that happened to us bereaved parents. A few relatives came by the funeral wake of my son, dropped some donations and left because they said, “This (funeral) is too sad for us to go through.”
Then, the most common remark younger women whom are still in child-bearing age gets is - Don’t worry, you can have another baby again soon.
What about telling a friend, “Don’t cry so much, bad for your eyes.”
Well, we have done that before, haven’t we? And we think it is the acceptable social conversation. However it is not. It can be very hurtful to the bereaved parents. So, there is a book on how to deal with the awkward situation when attending funerals and dealing with bereaved parents. Of course, this is not a regular coffee table book. But if you are interested, there is a book written by a beareaved mom which others may wish to check out. Find out how to purchase the book here.