Comments on: Stillbirths http://myhealingpath.net/index.php/2006/04/10/stillbirths/ Childloss support and coping with grief Wed, 08 Sep 2010 09:38:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: michelle snider http://myhealingpath.net/index.php/2006/04/10/stillbirths/#comment-17148 michelle snider Wed, 09 Jul 2008 13:25:17 +0000 http://myhealingpath.net/?p=13#comment-17148 My story is a little bit different, i have a 4 yr old with my ex husband and now my new husband and i have had a 23 week still birth this time last year and now i'm 17 weeks pregnant and they know for a fact that i'm going to lose my baby again. We have to go to a chromosomal specialist in birmingham al . The last pregnancy looked normal, they said it ended by spontaneous rupture of the cord, this time my baby has a chromosomal abnormality called a cystic hygroma, which means it has fluid on it's neck and in it's chest and stomach. I don't know what my chances of my husband and i having a baby are if naybodky has had the same problems i feel for you as well please share your stories with me and let me know whether or not there is hope, i go to the soctor on the 18th of this month, but it will take weeks to find out naything, and they said my baby will be dead by then. My story is a little bit different, i have a 4 yr old with my ex husband and now my new husband and i have had a 23 week still birth this time last year and now i’m 17 weeks pregnant and they know for a fact that i’m going to lose my baby again. We have to go to a chromosomal specialist in birmingham al . The last pregnancy looked normal, they said it ended by spontaneous rupture of the cord, this time my baby has a chromosomal abnormality called a cystic hygroma, which means it has fluid on it’s neck and in it’s chest and stomach. I don’t know what my chances of my husband and i having a baby are if naybodky has had the same problems i feel for you as well please share your stories with me and let me know whether or not there is hope, i go to the soctor on the 18th of this month, but it will take weeks to find out naything, and they said my baby will be dead by then.

]]> By: admin http://myhealingpath.net/index.php/2006/04/10/stillbirths/#comment-4 admin Tue, 18 Apr 2006 17:07:43 +0000 http://myhealingpath.net/?p=13#comment-4 Hi Ummunzir Thank you for sharing. I am glad that you give us, the newly bereaved mothers the comfort that we will never ever forget those moments. No doubt there are some that we wish to completely forget, but never will we forget our child, ya? Thanks once again and I am sure many people will benefit from your sharing. *hugs* Hi Ummunzir
Thank you for sharing. I am glad that you give us, the newly bereaved mothers the comfort that we will never ever forget those moments. No doubt there are some that we wish to completely forget, but never will we forget our child, ya? Thanks once again and I am sure many people will benefit from your sharing. *hugs*

]]> By: ummunzir http://myhealingpath.net/index.php/2006/04/10/stillbirths/#comment-2 ummunzir Tue, 11 Apr 2006 02:43:00 +0000 http://myhealingpath.net/?p=13#comment-2 **** SORRY, LONG COMMENT **** My first pregnancy was full of happy memories, at least until my due date. I was healthy all the way no high/low bp, mgtt okay and even baby was progressing beautifully. My edd was 2nd July 1990. When I went for my check-up on that date, I was told that I had to come again on the 9th to be induced if no contractions appeared in the next few days. I was induced on the 9th (pitosin - more than a bottle). By the late afternoon when the contractions were really strong but no signs of the baby coming; my doctor decided to take off the drip and let me rest overnite at the maternity clinic. I was discharged the following morning and was given a Foetal Movement Chart to fill in and was told to come back immediately if there's any thing ( show, contraction etc). I went home, though a bit wary at such decision by my doctor. 3 days after that I could fill in the FMC in less than an hour. The baby was moving vigourously and toward the evening began to move less and less. We went back to the clinic and asked to see the doctor. She was paged but didn't response even after an hour. That was when my husband decided to take me to the General Hospital where a scan was done and we got a confirmation that we had lost our first baby. We hugged each other and cried our hearts out for losing our baby. Our mistake was that we trusted too much our doctor. This was our first and didn't know that a failed induction should have been followed by a ceaserian section. I felt my world crumbled and felt that I couldn't face the rest of the world. I felt guilty for not being able to deliver a healthy living baby. My baby was born dead on the 15th of July 1990 at 10.44 pm after a labor of about 12 hours. I couldn't bear to look at him though the nurses asked whether I wanted to hold or looked at him. I felt that I've failed him. I was crying and crying and was feeling self-pity. Anyhow, now I have 6 beautiful children; 5 girls and the youngest a boy. Although 16 yrs has passed since then, I can relive every detail, the feelings, the situation the faces of the nurses, doctors even the smell.... **** SORRY, LONG COMMENT ****

My first pregnancy was full of happy memories, at least until my due date. I was healthy all the way no high/low bp, mgtt okay and even baby was progressing beautifully. My edd was 2nd July 1990. When I went for my check-up on that date, I was told that I had to come again on the 9th to be induced if no contractions appeared in the next few days.

I was induced on the 9th (pitosin - more than a bottle). By the late afternoon when the contractions were really strong but no signs of the baby coming; my doctor decided to take off the drip and let me rest overnite at the maternity clinic. I was discharged the following morning and was given a Foetal Movement Chart to fill in and was told to come back immediately if there’s any thing ( show, contraction etc).

I went home, though a bit wary at such decision by my doctor. 3 days after that I could fill in the FMC in less than an hour. The baby was moving vigourously and toward the evening began to move less and less. We went back to the clinic and asked to see the doctor. She was paged but didn’t response even after an hour. That was when my husband decided to take me to the General Hospital where a scan was done and we got a confirmation that we had lost our first baby. We hugged each other and cried our hearts out for losing our baby.

Our mistake was that we trusted too much our doctor. This was our first and didn’t know that a failed induction should have been followed by a ceaserian section. I felt my world crumbled and felt that I couldn’t face the rest of the world. I felt guilty for not being able to deliver a healthy living baby.

My baby was born dead on the 15th of July 1990 at 10.44 pm after a labor of about 12 hours. I couldn’t bear to look at him though the nurses asked whether I wanted to hold or looked at him. I felt that I’ve failed him. I was crying and crying and was feeling self-pity.

Anyhow, now I have 6 beautiful children; 5 girls and the youngest a boy. Although 16 yrs has passed since then, I can relive every detail, the feelings, the situation the faces of the nurses, doctors even the smell….

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